Camping at work, bad habit

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NO matter what explanations I am given, I will never understand women who camp at their partneraï¿½ï¿½s workplace.

It just paints a picture of an insecure woman who above all is not wife material.

The minute you start camping at your husbandaï¿½ï¿½s workplace, know that you are making him appear like a weak man before his colleagues.

Unfortunately, most people who like doing so are of the belief that they are displaying how much madly in love they are, but itaï¿½ï¿½s not the case.

If you need to display your love, better find other activities, not at a workplace!

Of course I have heard some women who are in the habit of camping at their husbandaï¿½ï¿½s workplaces claiming that they will be missing their partners and at the same time marking their territory.

Honestly, by acting that way you are giving the potential snatchers chances as they get to know how weak you are and even turn you into a laughing stock.

These days there are open relationships and the minute your rival gets to know about your weaknesses, it makes life easy for them and worse remember that you cannot guide an animal called a human being.

Sisters, all I am saying is, donaï¿½ï¿½t be in the habit of camping at your partneraï¿½ï¿½s workplace, just give him space and give him time to work and mix with his colleagues. You got all the time to be with him, there is time for everything.

Some men have even missed promotion opportunities because of their wives who end up appearing as if they are their husbandaï¿½ï¿½s PA at work. Probably when you are always by his side at work, you are disturbing him and he cannot perform at his best.

Give him that time to do his best at work and it will be for the best.

If you have insecurity issues, deal with them in other ways, not by camping at his workplace. A real woman knows her place and if you have chosen to be a house wife better keep yourself busy preparing for his return at home than camping at his workplace.

Then there is also another group of women who are in the habit of taking their home wars to their partneraï¿½ï¿½s workplace as a way of embarrassing them.

Itaï¿½ï¿½s also a No! No! for me. Okay, if you go and shout at him in front of his colleagues and embarrass him, then what?

Shame, you are not only embarrassing him, but even your dignity is gone. You start to be labelled that crazy wife.

Yes, people at his workplace will get to know that he is not that aï¿½?perfectaï¿½? man they always thought he was, then what? Remember, the two of you still have a future together and even if you have solved your problems, people will always talk about the issue and in most cases you will be given names.

As a woman, you should know that every household has got its own smoke and going public will not solve your marital problems, but will make thingsAï¿½ worse. When you have problems, do not act emotionally because some things cannot be reversed. Embarrassing someone in public does not solve problems!

Okay, having said all that, maybe some women decide to camp at their husbandaï¿½ï¿½s workplaces in the name of keeping the flames high. Communication is very crucial, to keep the fire burning, let your partner know that, whatever happens, you are there for him. When you meet after a long day, give him all ears so he shares with you what transpired during the day. Even asking what you can do to make his day a better one and both your lives just that tiny little bit better each and every day will be sweet.

We all know that good communication is the key to a healthy and happy relationship. Put aside some time for talking and concentrate on what youaï¿½ï¿½re talking about. Itaï¿½ï¿½s not just about half listening to what he has to say, while you do the chores; itaï¿½ï¿½s about sitting down together, looking each other in the eyes and really discussing things. This makes you closer to each other.

Relationship tips would be incomplete without intimacy talk. Donaï¿½ï¿½t let your intimate moments get boring. Plan for your weekends now and again when you get time and explore each otheraï¿½ï¿½s bodies. Exclusive lovemaking always keeps the fire burning and maybe the reason some women end up following their husbands to the workplace is because they would have been left unsatisfied in bed and go after them to make sure no one else does their role.

Relationships take a bit of work to keep the spark alive and one of the things that couples should stop doing is just saying aï¿½?I love youaï¿½?.Aï¿½ Donaï¿½ï¿½t take for granted that he knows you love him; make sure that he knows! Do not guard him at work, but express yourself and make sure he gets to know that you love him!

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