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BOTH the married and those intending to should know God’s purpose for the institution. If one scrutinises marriages, it is disheartening. But marriage is a necessary good. You need to be armed with the following concepts for your marriage to be a living testimony.
Marriage is Good
“And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.” (Genesis 2:18)
Marriage was instituted for the good of man. God didn’t create it to trap man’s destiny. Marriage is designed to make life great, so when life is not great in marriage, it’s a disappointment to the Creator. Marriage is nothing to be scared of, as it was designed to make life complete. So focus on what will make it enjoyable for both of you rather than being selfish.
It is for better living
Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 says, “Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour. For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up. Again, if two lie together, then they have heat: but how can one be warm alone? And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken.”
Somebody said they are scared of marriage vows, saying such things as, “I, so and so, get into wedlock with you for better, for worse, in sickness and in health, in failure and in success . . .” But what really is God’s concept for marriage? Two are better than one! One shall chase a thousand, and two shall put ten thousand to flight. What did Jesus say about it also? He says: “Again I say unto you, That if two of you shall agree on earth as touching anything that they shall ask, it shall be done for them of my Father which is in heaven”. (Matthew 18:19)
The greatest agreement under heaven is in marriage. It is the only relationship that gives room for unity in body, soul and spirit. Your spouse is the only one you can be committed to in the body.
Designed for fruitfulness
One of the major plagues in marriage is the plague of unfruitfulness. But the manufacturer states very clearly that it is designed for fruitfulness. The same Word that called light from wherever it came from is the same that called man fruitful.
“And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth”. (Genesis 1:28)
It is an order! If God said, “Be fruitful”, fallopian tube can’t block it. If God said, “Be fruitful”, low sperm count can’t stop that command. No sperm count was needed for Mary to be pregnant. Your being fruitful has no bearing with the chemistry of your body or the discoveries of the doctors. It has nothing to do with X-rays either. This gives us rest, because quite a number of people are agonising for children. As a result, many said, “If that’s what marriage is all about, then they don’t need it.” But God said, “No, that’s not My plan for creating marriage.”
Please, know that nothing can stop you from being fruitful if you’re married. His purpose is that you are fruitful, and no devil can stop that. You are entitled to both “sons and daughters”.
Law of Departure
“For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.” (Matthew 19:5-6). Anti-covenant interferences from parents, relatives and friends is another source of some troubles in the home. The law of departure must be in place for one to be able to enjoy success in marriage. When that law is broken, you have opened the door to all manner of negative events. Until you depart, you cannot cleave; and until you cleave, you cannot know peace.
Covenant obligation
of husband
What does the Manufacturer of the marriage institution expect from the husband?
“Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it”; Ephesians 5:25
The making of any wife is in the hand of her husband. Do you want a wife without spots, wrinkle, or any such thing? Then love her! Men are to love their wives as their own bodies. Until the love responsibility is accepted, there will be nothing called success in marriage. Love will break the back-bone of any devil trying to harass your family life.
Covenant obligation of wife
“Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body”. (Ephesians 5:22-23)
The husband is not the side, he’s the head. His headship cannot be contested. So when you allow your husband to be the head of the home through submission, he can then play the messianic role. He’s the head and your friend at the same time.
Please note that the submission I’m talking about is not in slavery, but in love; not in fear, but in love. When submission is done in love, it is seen as perfect, and God will always show Himself.
Apostle Langton C Kanyati is the founder and president of Zoe Life Changing Ministries and Grace Unlimited Interdenominational Ministries. Feedback: [email protected] or WhatsApp 0772 987 844.
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