adminAnn Ruthenburg Marriage Docrtor
HELLO there readers, this week we are featuring the following letter to whoever. . .here it is!
TO MY UN-NAMED PARTNER
It is such a shame we find ourselves here in this thoughtless, hopeless, loveless relationship.
I am so sorry that you feel that what you paid for as a wife is not what you have now months and years later.
I am so sorry that you feel that being with me is a waste of your precious time; and that you would rather be with your friends, family or mistresses or workmates.
I am so sorry that you feel I am no longer at your level, hence I am an embarrassment. I am so sorry that you feel that I am an unsociable, sulking, unhappy, unsatisfied woman. It is so sad you cannot spend even an hour with me alone.
I am so sorry that you feel that there is nothing I do at home except talk nonsense with everyone and waste your money; whilst you are out there working so hard making money for our survival.
Have you ever considered that the kids you take so much pride in, are looked after by me. Have you ever wondered that the maid who washes and irons your clothes so perfectly, does so because I have trained her and I make sure she does that. Have you ever considered that the smart home you come to is because I make it so. Could it be that the so called lots of money you give me (which is way less than you spend on your friends and mistresses), is what I use to make your family look good in the eyes of your precious others. Have you ever considered that maybe just maybe this is why I do not look like the trophy wife you married because there is nothing left after all I do in the house and family. . .that I can use for me to spend on myself to look good like I used too.
You say you regret the marriage; okay! If you are so sad and so dissatisfied with me and the marriage that you continue to disrespect me; please send me back. Send me back to the life I used to have before you. Because my dear I have come to realise that it is better for me to go back to the dark and be in truth; than for me to stay in the so called light and be in a lie.
You say you paid a lot for me and I have not lived up to it. Really? Do you understand that when you paid my bride price, you were not paying for me; you were thanking my family for having brought me up to a standard that was acceptable and appreciated by you. It was your appreciation to them; not to me. And in return they gave me to you with the belief that you will lift me higher than where they left off. I left my father/male guardian who was my cover, protector, provider, support etc., so that you could take over.
You must think that I need to worship you because you saved me. NO my dear, you did not save me, you have got it all wrong.
It is a privilege for you to have been given the chance to pick up where the other male in my life left off. God my real father allowed one man to bring me into the world for the first half of my life, (whether he did a good job or not is Gods issue). God has now allowed you to take me through the second half of my life until he chooses to claim my life back to himself. God paid a huge price for me, which no man on this earth can pay, so please get off you high horse.
The reason you liked what you saw before you married me, is because there were people in my life who put that into me. Your job when you took me was not to ride or take advantage of what other people put in me; but you were supposed to start inputting love and everything else into me, so that I become a bigger, better, whole person. So my precious dear, if you do not like what you are seeing in me; check yourself! I am a product of what you have done to me and said to me since you took me from my life before you.
So please stop blaming me and everything else for your disappointment. Do us all a favour and admit you have failed as a man, as a husband. My Father God has no problem stepping into my life after you leave and lifting me up to where you should have taken me.
Let me tell you my beloved; there is nothing in my past that compares to the pain I am feeling here with you. You see my past as dark as it was (abuse, lies, emotional, pain), was not as bad as it is with you. Because my past did not promise me anything, I knew what to expect each day and I lived with it, praying that one day God would bring that perfect person to save me and give me life. And you came! And you knew it! This is why I say you are worse, because you made me promises, you made public vows and commitments to me. You promised me the world and showed me a picture of true love and romance. But you knew you had no intention of giving me any of that. All you saw in me was a future womb for your kids, a maid to keep your home and clothes in order, chef to cook your meals, sex maniac to satisfy all your desires; beauty queen to show off to your friends; rural girl to serve you without talking; young girl to respect your parents; nurse to heal your wounds physical and emotional, banker to make the little money you give me stretch and so much more.
Let me remind you of what I gave up for you because I trusted you and your intentions for me. What I gave up for you and continue to give up for you, was more than worth it for me, because I believed in you. I gave up my family, my home and family, my hopes, dreams and desires, my career, my plans and most of all, I gave up who I was as an individual to fit into your plans, your vision, your family, your hopes and dreams and become to you what I hoped you would lead, guide and teach me to be.
So once again my Love, if you do not like what you are seeing in me after all this time. . .know this; that I am a product of what you have put into me. Yes your mistress is perfect I know; but that is because she is where I was before you married me; she is a product of what other people have put into her. . .believe me; if you continue on this selfish self-absorbed way; she will end up exactly like me in your eyes in a few months or years mark my words!
So please if dealing with me is too much for you. . .let me go. It will hurt me now; but you will have saved me from future pain. At least I know that when I am out of your control and back in the control of my father God; there is hope and a future for me no matter how hard it is going to be for me to start my life again (whether single or with another real man). I was born to love as a woman, you have robbed me of that; by not feeding me the tools I need to continue to love freely. I am dry now, no more emotion; no more hope; no more dreams; no more energy. I am just a shell of who I used to be. I have nothing left to give, you are right! I am now empty. I will in time find myself again away from you. If of cause in time you come to your senses and you realise your mistake, maybe you can come looking for me. But I warn you, I might not be available for you and I might not be willing to return to you; so be careful what decision you make now, it may have long term undesirable consequences.
Your faithful wife.
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