Put yourself first!

Women are bombarded with advice on how to catch a man, but itaï¿½ï¿½s important to put yourself into the equation.

You will often be given tips on how to be perfect for him, but the question should be is he perfect for you?

You need to learn when to walk away from a relationship thataï¿½ï¿½s not going to build you up.

After the buzz of the first few weeks has worn off, you are faced with the prospect of spending many more months with this man. Now is the time to decide whether to stay or cut your losses and move on, and you need to put yourself first. There are five important questions you must ask yourself to decide if this is the right man for you.

. 1) Does he support your goals in life?

Being in a relationship should not mean sacrificing your dreams. Relationships often involve compromise, but some things are too important to give up on. You want to find someone who you can work with to build something beautiful. The best relationship is greater than the sum of its parts, not a scenario in which you give up on your most important goals.

2) Does he support you in hard times as well as good?

This is something you will start to learn as time goes on. The early days are always full of excitement, but soon you will start to discover whether heaï¿½ï¿½s as good to be around when things are hard. You need someone who is good when times are hard for you or for him aï¿½ï¿½ not someone who shirks responsibilities or leaves you struggling alone.

3) Does he make you feel better about yourself?

Itaï¿½ï¿½s important that the person you choose encourages you and makes you walk taller. If someone is criticising you aï¿½ï¿½ be it the way you look or the things you want to achieve in life aï¿½ï¿½ then itaï¿½ï¿½s time to move on. You want someone who is proud to be with you and makes you feel the best you ever have.

4) Does he embrace your flaws?

Weaï¿½ï¿½re all flawed, and being in a relationship with someone means facing your own imperfections and those of others.

Some things we might want to work to improve, but some things will never change and must be accepted. Make sure you are not with someone who will tear you down.

5) Does he make you happy?

This one may sound simple, but ask yourself if you are happier now than before you met him. He should be someone you enjoy being around and makes you smile and laugh. Happiness in a relationship comes from enjoying other personaï¿½ï¿½s company over a long period of time.

Ladies, romantic relationships are a part of your life where itaï¿½ï¿½s important to put yourself first. When the infatuation starts to wear off, have a look at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself these questions. Have the confidence to walk away from anything that no longer helps you grow or makes you happy.